Leave No Cracks in the Doors!

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As someone who is extremely sensitive and tender hearted and a huge people pleaser who wants to fix and help people... this has been one of my hardest lessons to learn and I'm still learning at almost 35, to close the door completely on certain friendships. But I am finally getting it, everyone cannot be in my inner circle, and I cannot help people the way Jesus can. Guilt and condemnation comes from the enemy, even when we have to close the door completely/permanently on a relationship or friendship, he (the enemy) will pour condemning feelings on us saying that we are unforgiving and cold hearted. But the truth is you can completely forgive someone while not allowing him/her back in your life. If that person is effecting your emotional, physical, spiritual, or mental wellbeing then I encourage you to take a stand for yourself no matter how much it may hurt, because if you keep going down that road it will hurt you more in the end. I have left that crack open on doors before and got hurt again, with no one to blame but myself. Now, I realize what it truly means to shut that door completely and I am headed into 2019 already on the right track. Let me encourage you to take care of yourself and be true to yourself. Not being real with someone about how you feel about them is not only lying to yourself but to them and God is not pleased with that. We get so caught up in pleasing and or listening to others that we forget who we are as a person. We have to let go of letting others take advantage of or use us, we have to learn what it truly means to listen to ourselves. We have to learn when something does not feel quite right to let it go and quit holding on to it. As someone who continually fights to overcome anxiety and depression, and have come leaps and bounds this year, it is helping me more than anything to learn to take a stand for myself and truly learn that what I say and do be pleasing to the Lord and no one else. I pray that if the Lord continues to tarry and I see 2019, that I work on drawing closer to Him this coming year, and praying for an even greater discernment. He has been so good to me this year, despite my shortcomings!

2019: Please be true with others and to yourself!!

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